My ideal self pulls me forward but my ought self just adds guilt — why do the two feel so different?

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Contingent self-esteem: when your whole worth rides on one domain High self-esteem with a badly defined identity is a common combination and the research rarely separates them Math self-concept and general self-esteem move separately which is why a good student can still feel stupid One generous act and you file yourself as generous while one lapse files you as a fraud The gap between your actual self and your ought self produces guilt while the gap to your ideal self produces disappointment When all my self-worth sits on my career one bad quarter feels like a life verdict — how do you spread the load? Self-concept clarity is how sure you are of who you are and low clarity predicts rumination better than low self-esteem does Self-esteem scales and identity scales overlap so heavily that some studies measure one construct twice Most drivers rate themselves above average — is a slightly inflated self-concept the healthy default? Appearance-contingent self-esteem and why compliments wear off